I help men get out from under the pressure they carry alone, in the therapy room and beyond it. If you're tired of white-knuckling it, let's talk.
"Strength was never the problem. Carrying it alone was."
The loneliest men are the ones everyone else leans on.
Ongoing individual therapy, virtual and offered across a growing number of states, and men's weekend retreats, open to men anywhere in the country, for immersive, intensive work with a community of men on a similar path.
Private, ongoing therapy for men who are done handling everything alone. We move at a pace you can trust, and I talk to you like a person, not a case.
A small circle of men, off the grid, doing the work most of us never make time for. Part challenge, part reset. It gets you past the armor to whatever's underneath.
I'm Dr. Cyrus Patten, a licensed clinical social worker with more than 24 years in the mental health field, and I've worked it from nearly every seat. I've been a therapist, a clinical supervisor for over a decade, and a teacher who's trained hundreds of social workers and therapists coming up behind me. I've held faculty roles in social work at the University of Vermont and in business at Champlain College, and I've founded two thriving group practices along with several other ventures. So when I sit across from you, there's real range behind it. Very little you bring will be unfamiliar, and I know how to meet it without flinching.
What I'm strongest at is anxiety, relationships, and the particular work of navigating masculinity, being a man in a world full of quiet, contradictory messages about what that's supposed to mean. That's where my clinical experience and my own life meet.
A number of years ago I realized that underneath the pressure and stress dragging me down was a script I'd been handed about what it means to be a man. Provide for everyone. Carry the weight. Don't complain. I set out to rewrite it, and that work is a big part of why I do this now.
I'm not doing this from above it. I'm an entrepreneur and a business owner, a husband and a father, so I know those pressures firsthand. And I keep doing my own work, in the room and out of it, because this path has no finish line. I'm not a man who's arrived. I'm a man who's walked a long stretch of the road you're on, and I can walk the next part with you.
In practice, that means direct, grounded, and human. No jargon and no performance, and I won't pretend the hard things are simple. Just steady, honest work, at a pace you can trust.
Book a free 15-minute call. We'll talk about what's going on and whether working together makes sense.
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